Common Misconceptions About Divorce Mediation:
1. DIVORCE IS TOO COMPLICATED TO MEDIATE
Mediation is as full-service as you want it to be. It can be used to resolve specific points in the negotiation, or it can be used to negotiate the entire settlement agreement from beginning through filing the papers in court. In more complex cases, Dr. Winder brings in outside experts to the process for things like valuations, tax questions, and other specialized areas. Everything that a litigated divorce can do, a mediated divorce can do better.
2. I’LL GET A BETTER DEAL IF I HIRE A LAWYER/GO TO COURT
You might. You also might not. One thing that is for certain though is that it will be much longer, more difficult, more expensive, and stressful. Mediation is all about finding a balance that works for both parties, and leaves everyone feeling good about the resulting agreement. And there’s no obligation or commitment – if at any point you feel it’s not working out, you can always go another route.
3. IF I MEDIATE I LOSE THE ABILITY TO HAVE A LAWYER PROTECT ME
As part of mediation Dr. Winder encourages each spouse to retain their own attorney to review the agreement. However, this is done is a collaborative manner, as opposed to hiring a lawyer to fight against your spouse. This allows each person to be protected while not allowing the process to degenerate into angry and unnecessary fighting.
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