Divorce Mediation
Mediation helps you work through decisions about children, finances, property and life after separation. As a psychologist and mediator, I help clarify the practical disagreements and the emotions that can make them harder to resolve.
Phone or video, for private-pay inquiries. Prefer to ask a question? Contact the practice. Please leave sensitive personal details out of an initial message.
How the process works
Start with a brief introduction to discuss whether mediation fits your situation. Most mediation sessions involve both of you.
- Identify the decisions that need to be made, separating areas of agreement from unresolved issues.
- Work through the unresolved issues one at a time.
- Gather further information or consult an attorney, accountant or another professional when needed before making a decision.
The scope and fee for divorce mediation are confirmed before scheduling. See fees and payment information.
You do not have to agree about the past
A discussion about a pickup schedule can also carry hurt about time with the children. A disagreement about money may involve years of resentment about who contributed what. It helps to recognize those meanings without making agreement about the past a condition for deciding what happens next.
- parenting schedules and custody arrangements
- decision-making regarding children
- child support and related expenses
- spousal support
- property and financial responsibilities
- housing and living arrangements
- specific issues preventing a broader settlement
Some couples need help with nearly every part of the divorce. Others have already agreed on most things and are stuck on one or two issues.
Both can be appropriate for mediation.
How I work
My background as both a psychologist and mediator shapes the work. I listen for the practical disagreement and the emotional meaning attached to it. When a conversation becomes circular, I help slow it down, clarify what each person is trying to protect, and identify the realistic options.
There is room for anger, fear, mistrust and concern about children. We also need to keep returning to the decisions you came to make.
Working toward an agreement
The goal is an agreement both of you can accept. That may require compromise, more information or independent professional advice.
Mediation and attorneys
I remain neutral and do not represent either person. Your own attorney advises you about your legal interests and can review a proposed agreement before it is finalized.
When mediation may be a good fit
You don’t need an amicable relationship. Both of you do need to participate seriously, share the information needed to make decisions and consider possible solutions.
Try a free exercise
To sort through one practical decision, try One unresolved decision. Keep your answers for your own use. This exercise does not settle legal rights or replace independent legal advice. You can also browse all exercises.
Before getting started
What should we send in an initial inquiry?
A brief description of the kind of help you are looking for is enough. Please do not send legal papers, financial documents or sensitive personal details. Ask about the process and appropriate way to share information before sending documents.
How can we check whether mediation is suitable?
Start with a brief introduction to discuss whether mediation makes sense for your situation. If speaking honestly or saying no feels unsafe, seek private, qualified support first.
Book a free introduction
A free, 15-minute phone or video call to discuss what you’re looking for and whether we might work well together. For private-pay inquiries.
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