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Dr. Alan Winder

Understand yourself more clearly.
Live more deliberately.

Therapy for capable, responsible people who are used to figuring things out for themselves.

Virtual individual therapy for adults in New York and New Jersey.

15 minutes · phone or video · private-pay inquiries

Working with individuals & couples

Start with what you need help with.

Individual therapy

When overthinking, pressure or familiar patterns are getting in the way, therapy offers space to understand them and work toward change.

Couples mediation

Work on the disagreement you keep returning to, and what happens between you when you try to resolve it.

Divorce mediation

A structured, neutral process for working through practical decisions about separation and what comes next.

What working together is like.

I’m Dr. Alan Winder, a Clinical Psychologist and Certified Couples Mediator with more than 20 years of experience.

I’m practical and direct. We’ll look at why a problem keeps happening, what you want to change and what makes that difficult. Your values and responsibilities matter. I’m here to help you think more clearly about your choices, not make them for you.

Dr. Alan Winder seated in an office chair

When your strengths start getting in the way.

Thinking ahead, taking responsibility and pushing yourself can serve you well. They can also leave you replaying conversations, managing everyone else’s feelings or struggling to switch off.

We can look at where those habits help and where a different response might be useful.

A first conversation

Book a free introduction

A free, 15-minute phone or video call to discuss what you’re looking for and whether we might work well together. For private-pay inquiries. For insurance inquiries, contact the practice.

Fees and payment

Choose a time

Choose an available date, then a time, to book your free introduction with Dr. Winder. Please leave health and treatment details out of the booking form.

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Free resources

Try an exercise or read more

Try a short exercise on your own. No signup required.

When one worry leads to another

Choose a thinking pattern, try a brief exercise, and notice what changes, if anything.

Prefer to read?

So What Is Therapy, Anyway?

A look at what happens in therapy, beyond talking about your week.

For organizations and technology teams

Speaking, consultation and hands-on clinical product development, grounded in more than 20 years of practice.