Avoid Costly Litigation/ Minimize Emotional Trauma/ Save Time and Stress/ Maintain Positive Relationship
Divorce is stressful and Overwhelming. Mediation is the way to make the best of a difficult situation. You don’t need to fight in court. Enormous legal fees, emotional trauma to both parents and children, wasted months or years of life, and damaged relationships, are always the products of a contentious divorce. Mediating your divorce will allow you to achieve a faster and far less expensive outcome, and will allow you to get a fair settlement that makes sense for you and your family.
There are many aspects to a separation or divorce that must be agreed upon:
If there are Children, who gets custody? What does “custody” even mean” Should you opt for Joint Custody, Sole Custody, Joint Legal Custody, Physical Custody, and what are the legal ramifications of these terms? How do you get advice about the best way to proceed with everything? it’s all very overwhelming. Dr. Winder’s focus in mediation is in clarifying and helping you understand these terms, helping you to understand the actual meaning of custody / visitation / parental rights / child support, and other important parts of the process, and how these will affect you and your child/ren going forward. Mediation is about finding a custody arrangement that works best for everyone, most importantly your child.
The other route is to use a lawyer to fight for your rights – custody rights, visitation rights, child support rights, etc – this is a process that becomes very costly and often turns into an angry, long court battle. In Mediation Dr. Winder can help you review and decide on a custody/visitation/child support arrangement that YOU choose, and that works best for you and your child.
Common Misconceptions About Divorce Mediation:
1. DIVORCE IS TOO COMPLICATED TO MEDIATE
Mediation is as full-service as you want it to be. It can be used to resolve specific points in the negotiation, or it can be used to negotiate the entire settlement agreement from beginning through filing the papers in court. In more complex cases, Dr. Winder brings in outside experts to the process for things like valuations, tax questions, and other specialized areas. Everything that a litigated divorce can do, a mediated divorce can do better.
2. I’LL GET A BETTER DEAL IF I HIRE A LAWYER/GO TO COURT
You might. You also might not. One thing that is for certain though is that it will be much longer, more difficult, more expensive, and stressful. Mediation is all about finding a balance that works for both parties, and leaves everyone feeling good about the resulting agreement. And there’s no obligation or commitment – if at any point you feel it’s not working out, you can always go another route.
3. IF I MEDIATE I LOSE THE ABILITY TO HAVE A LAWYER PROTECT ME
As part of mediation Dr. Winder encourages each spouse to retain their own attorney to review the agreement. However, this is done is a collaborative manner, as opposed to hiring a lawyer to fight against your spouse. This allows each person to be protected while not allowing the process to degenerate into angry and unnecessary fighting.
Dr. Winder takes a limited number of Divorce Mediation cases on a pro-bono (no cost) basis. If you would like to be put on the waiting list for this service, please fax your request to the office at (866) 575-1763 or email by . If you would like to make an appointment for a regular divorce mediation session please call the office directly at (516) 345-0456. The initial consultation is always free.
Confused? Overwhelmed? Not sure what to do next? Come for a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your options. No cost or obligation of any kind. Call the office at (516) 345-0456to contact us online.
“Dr. Winder was very effective in helping me deal with an extremely stressful time in my life. The thinking exercises he taught me improved my ability to cope and allowed me to feel more hopeful.”
“Our divorce was getting nasty when we decided to give mediation a try – Dr. Winder was able to help us come to a settlement, avoid a court battle, and we’re now able to get along – which is great for our kids.”