When I am successful with cases like this it’s almost always because of a difference in approach. My focus is very solution-oriented, and I tend to use a cognitive behavioral approach to therapy. That means that coming to see me is not about laying on a couch and expressing whatever comes to your mind every week forever. Rather, I actively structure the sessions in a manner designed to help you accomplish four things:
- Recognize specific goals that are important to you that directly relate to the reason you came to see me.
- Identify and develop the tools needed to achieve those goals.
- Learn, practice, and improve the skills to use those tools correctly.
- Feel proud of yourself!
My focus is always on getting patients to stop seeing me as soon as possible – I feel most successful when someone stops seeing me because we both feel that they are ready to do so. I take great satisfaction in seeing increased confidence about a person’s ability to handle whatever brought them in to see me.
The one thing I expect of if you come see me is that you are willing to engage in this process – be open to recognizing what factors are holding you back, be open to recognizing the tools that can help you get past these, and have the willingness to do the work necessary to get it done.
My style of therapy is not for everyone – if you’re just looking for someone sit and listen to you talk once a week, I’m probably not the best therapist for you. If you’re interested in figuring out what’s holding you back in your life or relationship and want to learn and practice the skills to break unhealthy patterns, then we may be a good fit. Feel free to come in for a free 20-minute consultation and see for yourself.